Their own benefit



In the beginning the love bombing serves one purpose for the narcissist, and that is to get you hooked on their attention. It is especially insidious when they are critical and negative about a lot of other people and situations. It makes you feel extra special to be the main focus of their “love”.


Later, when they have gotten everything they wanted from you, the words you so desperately want to hear again will never come. You no longer serve a purpose to them. The discard is eminent.


When your presence in their life is no longer beneficial to them, you must realize that no matter what you do or say, they will never give you what you truly want. They never had any respect for your feelings or what you wanted in a relationship. They were only concerned about their own wants and needs.


You will only be able to heal once you recognize the situation for what it is. Loving yourself and setting boundaries are your two biggest ways to begin healing. ❤️


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